The Feminist Pessimist

Journey of giving birth to a girl in a world that just wants her to bake cookies for the boys.

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I am a software quality assurance engineer and manager for Statistica. I love math, programming, and problem isolation & solving. Any opinions expressed are my own and not necessarily that of my employer.

Monday, October 29, 2007

'Tis a girl!

About two hours ago, we found out that the baby-geek-to-be is a girl.

The sex of the baby really hadn't mattered to me until now.

As I drove back to work after the doctor's appointment, I began to sweat just a little. How do you raise a girl so that she grows up independent and competent? As long as she never leaves the house or turns on the TV, she'll be fine. But once she sees all the commercials for Pink Doll of the Week or the Little Suzy Homemaker play kitchen, is she going to think that's what she needs to be playing with? What about when she meets other girls who only care about hair, makeup, nails, and throwing up to look thin? What if she thinks I'm disappointed in her if she turns out to be more feminine than I am? What if I actually WILL be disappointed in her if she turns out to be more feminine than I am?

I saw this article this morning about some things that many women do when they talk: Are your words holding you back?

It contains some things that are good reminders for any girl who wants to be taken more seriously.